“The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.” Proverbs 31:11 (Amplified)
I’ve always thought the study of the Proverbs 31 woman was a bit intimidating as well as a little painful. What woman can be all that and a bag of chips? How can she be all of those things at all times? Is that even possible while we live in this flesh?
In context we’re looking at the ideal woman as described by a mother who is giving her son the description of what he should be looking for in a wife – the kind of wife we all pray our sons would be wise enough to marry. But are we that kind of woman? Are we at least striving to be that kind of woman?
As we read through Proverbs 31:10-31, we find a woman of very noble character. Yet, one of the greatest traits touted by Mrs. P31 is that of trustworthiness. As the Amplified so beautifully says, her husband was confidently secure in her. He relied on and believed in his wife – and as the Scottish minister, George MacDonald, once said –
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.
From the framework of Proverbs 31:11, we’re told her husband “confidently” trusted in his wife in the area of their finances. In fact, as you read through each verse that describes this Wonder Woman of the Bible, you find that like a sweet perfume, Mrs. P31’s trustworthiness permeated every area of her life.
Her husband could trust his wife to…
- Be a frugal shopper (Proverbs 31:11)
- Be wise with their finances (Proverbs 31:11)
- Not be sneaky or deceptive about her spending (Proverbs 31:11)
- Not pressure her man to make more and more money (Proverbs 31:11)
- Not be materialistic (Proverbs 31:11)
- Not try to persuade him to do something unethical or desperate to make a buck (Proverbs 31:11)
- Do what is good for him (Proverbs 31:12)
- Be a diligent worker (Proverbs 31:13-14,19,24)
- Not be lazy (Proverbs 31:15)
- Care for others (Proverbs 31:15,20)
- Be a wise investor with their finances (Proverbs 31:16)
- Be a woman of dignity who is prepared for their future (Proverbs 31:21,25)
- Take care of the needs of the family and the home (Proverbs 31:22,27)
- Encourage, support and promote him (Proverbs 31:23)
- Carefully chose words of grace and truth, and guard what she says about him (Proverbs 31:26)
I’ve heard people say that in a marriage, trust is everything. If a man can’t trust his wife, it’s like knocking the legs out from under the foundation of their marriage. Trust is the seed that feeds love.