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Love: A Characteristic of the Spirit’s Fruit

May 3, 2019 by Ali Shaw Leave a Comment

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This month on DoNotDepart, we’re looking at the characteristics of the Fruit of the Spirit. Today’s post is about love.

What is Love?

We’ve written about love a lot here on DoNotDepart. Just type in “love” in the searchbar on our homepage and scroll through. 

I like this definition from Patti on love from this post: 

“…from a Christian worldview, love is not a feeling, it is a choice lived out in action.

In order to love in Jesus’ way, we have to understand His true definition of love. When we look at the truth given to us in Scripture, and modeled by Him in His earthly ministry, it is clear that love means serving.”

 

The Greek word used in the New Testament in agape. It has a different meaning than what our culture equates love with nowadays. Patti wrote about it right here.  I really recommend reading that post if you have time! If not, here’s the bones: 

“Agapé love is not based on merit or emotion. Agapé is a choice; a choice that God made when we least deserved it, and a choice that He asks you and I to make every day.” 

 

Do you see that word, choice? It really stands out to me! God commands me to show love, but I have to make the choice to obey. When I do, I enjoy the benefit of a better relationship with those I’m loving, and the Father I’m obeying.

God commands me to show love, but I have to make the choice to obey. Who should I love? Where do I get that love? And How can I love better? #FruitoftheSpirit

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Love: A Characteristic of the Spirit's Fruit. Read more about the Fruit of the Spirit at DoNotDepart.com

Who Should We Love

So, who should we love? Kelli answered this question while looking at 1 John 3:11-18 and 1 John 4:7-11. She tells us that there is no denying the fact that we are supposed to love our brothers.

And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also. (1 John 4:21)

 

And Jesus himself gave both this command and this answer to the lawyer who tested Him: 

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. (John 13:35)

And he answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.”  (Luke 10:27) 

 

In that second verse, Jesus was quoting Levitical law. If you read Leviticus 19:18 you’ll see the original, and if you follow down to Leviticus 19:33-34, you’ll see this:

When a stranger sojourns with you in your land, you shall not do him wrong. You shall treat the stranger who sojourns with you as the native among you, and you shall love him as yourself, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the Lord your God. (Leviticus 19:33-34)

 

In other words, the command to love others meant to love all others. This is also what Jesus taught in the Parable of the Good Samaritan when he was asked, “But who is my neighbor?” (Luke 10:29) The answer is:  Everyone.

Clarke’s Commentary says,

our Lord shows here, that the acts of kindness which a man is bound to perform to his neighbor when in distress, he should perform to any person, of whatever nation, religion, or kindred, whom he finds in necessity.

 

Where Do We Get Godly Love?

I think each one of us could say that we don’t always feel like loving others.

Sometimes I give love easily, but not always. Sometimes I put my wants or feelings first, or I feel too tired to do yet another thing for someone else. Or I feel grouchy and like the other person doesn’t even deserve my efforts. 

How wrong of me! If I follow only my feelings, those same feelings that lead me to loving well can lead me into not loving at all. Instead of following only feelings, I need to choose to follow God.

Despite unpredictable feelings, I can tell you this:  the Spirit gives us nudges to be loving. Yes, even when I don’t feel like loving, I know I should because of His reminders. I just have to listen and obey. Like Patti said, it’s a choice! 

Whether we don’t feel like giving love or we are loving someone difficult, we can pray and ask God to guide and empower us. He is faithful! I firmly believe He will answer that prayer and give us opportunities to love better and offer His wise counsel to help us.

How to Love Better

My grandson is an active toddler. He runs with excitement, but if he’s tired or distracted, he trips over his sweet, busy feet and falls.

Sometimes we fall or fail, too, but we must pick ourselves up and go again.

In the introduction to this series, Patti wrote:

 The remarkable blessing of belonging to [Jesus] is that the closer we stick to Him, the more deeply we abide in Him, the more He makes these things true of us.

 

As a Vine-abider (see John 15:1-17), I want to allow Him to work sanctification in me. I want to stay firmly attached to Him and bear fruit for His glory!

The characteristic of love is a fruit of the Spirit that I want to bear well. I desire to love others better, so here are some questions that I’m asking myself. I hope they help you, too.

  1. Am I being an example of God’s love to those around me? (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
  2. Am I sharing Jesus with others? (Matthew 28:19)
  3. Am I counting others as more significant than myself? (Phil 2:3-7)
  4. Am I seeing others the way God does? (2 Corinthians 5:14-21)
  5. Am I “washing feet?” (John 13:1-17)
  6. Am I seeking opportunities to love actively? (Not just emotionally?) (Luke 11:28, Matthew 25:35-40)
  7. Am I apologizing sincerely when I mess up? (Matthew 5:23-24)

I’m praying that Jesus can say of both you and I that,

 …everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. (John 13:35)

 

Who can you love today? What makes loving others easy for you? What makes it hard? Pray for the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit. Make the choice today to obey His nudges.

Who should I love? Where do I get that love? And How can I love better? Read more at DoNotDepart.com #FruitoftheSpirit

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Read More:

We wrote an entire series about loving others. Check it out here!

Wondering what agape love really is? Find out here.

Want to teach your kids to love? Read how to Teach Kids to Be Missionally Minded.

Fruit of the Spirit

May 2, 2019 by Patti Brown Leave a Comment

Join us for a 9 part series on the fruit of the Spirit at DoNotDepart.com

Spring has sprung in my yard! The grass is green, the flowers are blooming, and the weeds are continuing their epic struggle to dominate the world. I spend every spare moment I can playing in the dirt.

 

I find gardening so rewarding! As I clip away dead branches and pull weeds, new life gets that extra surge and my yard grows even more beautiful.

My gardening life has not always been so lovely, though. I currently live in a house in a neighborhood. I have one little yard to tend, with landscaped beds and an in-ground sprinkler system.

But a year ago I was living on a farm, with 48 acres to worry about. The soil was less than optimal, and the sheer volume of insects was the stuff of nightmares. Not to mention scorching heat, drought, goats who break through fences and eat E-VE-RY-THING. Ugh!

I all but gave up on gardening. When you don’t see the fruit of your labor, you become disheartened. I had difficult conditions to work with, and my plants struggled.

You don’t get a good flower or veggie crop by painting flowers and vegetables on your plants! The only way to save the problem of lack of fruit is to improve the plant itself. The right amount of water and sun, good nutrients from the soil or supplements, wise pruning and regular cultivation of weeds… all of these are required to strengthen the integrity of the plant itself. Only then can it bear a healthy crop.

In the same way, the spiritual fruit you and I are able to bear is directly a result of Jesus’ work in us. When Jesus Christ lives in you, your transformation begins inside. Jesus is not in the business of whitewashing your outsides to look good! He changes you from the inside out. The fruit of the Spirit is the evidence of that work within.

Join us for a 9 part series on the fruit of the Spirit at DoNotDepart.com

This month we are going to take a slow and detailed look at these two “spiritual fruit” verses from Galatians 5:

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23

Sometimes in our hurry to be “good Christians” we focus on making fruit appear: “I am going to be more patient! I am determined to have more self-control!” If we could be more patient by sheer force of effort, we wouldn’t need Jesus, would we? The remarkable blessing of belonging to Him is that the closer we stick to Him, the more deeply we abide in Him, the more He makes these things true of us.

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Torn Between Two Choices {Memorize Philippians 1:23-24}

April 29, 2019 by Lisa Burgess Leave a Comment

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When have you been torn between two choices?

Once you made up your mind, what was the deciding factor?

Torn Between Two Choices Philippians 1

The apostle Paul was torn between the two ultimate choices of life or death. He was “hard pressed between the two.”

The Greek here is sunechomai, which means to be pressed on or constrained, as in a crowd.

The decision was crushing him from every angle.

Memorize This Week

23 I am hard pressed between the two. My desire is to depart and be with Christ, for that is far better.
24 But to remain in the flesh is more necessary on your account.
Philippians 1:23-24

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Choose Mercy

We read of another crushing decision in the Old Testament. King David was asked to pick his punishment after he sinned by numbering the people against the Lord’s will. David was in great distress (2 Samuel 24:12-14). He had three choices: (1) seven years of famine, (2) a three month’s chase by enemies, or (3) three days of an epidemic.

David ultimately chose the last option, disease for three days, for this reason:

Then David said to Gad, “I am in great distress. Let us fall into the hand of the LORD, for his mercy is great; but let me not fall into the hand of man.”
2 Samuel 12:14

Because the Lord’s mercy is great, David trusted Him.

Paul also knew the Lord’s mercy. And because of that knowledge, he longed to be directly with the Lord, the “far better” choice.

But next week we’ll memorize why Paul did NOT choose death, however, and we’ll see how we can frame our own decisions like Paul did.

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40 Days with The Storyteller: Lent Recap

April 23, 2019 by Cheli Sigler Leave a Comment

Thank you for joining the DoNotDepart Team during the season of Lent as we explored Christ’s parables and illustrations.

This was to fulfill what was spoken by the prophet:
“I will open my mouth in parables;
I will utter what has been hidden since the foundation of the world.” Matthew 13:35

We enjoyed lingering over and discussing Jesus’ words with you in our Facebook community group. Lent and Easter 2019 have passed, but God’s Word and Hs resurrection power continue to work in our lives. Here’s a recap of our Lenten study.

40 Days with The Storyteller – A New Reading Plan for Lent (Luke 5:33-38): We began with an introduction to Lent, the reading plan, and DoNotDepart resources. Ali looked at how Jesus fulfilled the law and makes all things new.

Pictures of a Christ Follower. Parables for Lent. (Matthew 5:13-15, Luke 6:46-49, Luke 7:36-47): Jamie asked us to consider how Christians can be influencers in a sin-sick world, to dig deep into faith for a sure foundation, and live with gratitude for redeeming grace.

Why Do You Have So Much Stuff? {Lent Readings} (Luke 12:15-21, Luke 12:35-40, Luke 12:41-48): Lisa encouraged us to make more room for God, make margin in our lives so we can max out on the gifts He gives us, and to the gifts God gives us to bless others.

Field Tested: Lessons on Living in the Kingdom of Heaven (Luke 13:6-9, Matthew 13:3-8, 18-23, Matthew 13: 24-30, 36-43): Cheli shared that those who live in the Kingdom of Heaven repent, allow God’s Word to transform them, and persevere in hope.

Parables of the Kingdom {40 Days With the Storyteller} (Mark 4:26-29, Matthew 13:31-33, 44-50, 51-52): Patti reminded us that God’s Kingdom is capable of growing within us, a place where a little faith can be mighty, that the riches of the kingdom are found in God Himself, and a place where God’s Word continually yields new treasure.

Choosing Best: Love, Mercy, Service, and Forgiveness (John 10:1-18, Luke 17:7-10, Matthew 18:23-25, Luke 10:29-42): Ali challenged us to “choose best” based on God’s priorities: love, mercy, service and forgiveness.

How Do We Respond to the Heart of God? (Luke 11:5-10, Luke 14:7-14, 15-24, Luke 15:8-10): Jamie caused us to consider responding to the heart of God by extending help even when it’s inconvenient, exercising humility, accepting Christ’s invitation, and rejoicing when the lost are found.

Is There Grace in Accounting? (Luke 14:25-33, Matthew 18:10-14, Luke 15:11-19): Lisa pointed out in three parables “how God tilts grace in our favor.” We come up short, and He gives an overflow of grace.

Lessons on Grace and Mercy (Luke 15:20-32, Luke 16:1-13, 19-31): Cheli reflected on God’s desire to restore and extend mercy and challenged us to consider if our values match God’s values.

Our Gracious God Hears (Matthew 20:1-16, Luke 18:1-8, Luke 18:9-14) From this series of parables, Patti reminded us that our sovereign God hears our prayers when life is unfair, to pray with persistence because God is trustworthy, and to bring Him every request, no matter how humble, because He cares for us.

How He Loves Us: God Pursues the Undeserving (Luke 19:12-26, Matthew 21:28-32, 33-46): Ali encouraged us to make use of what God has given, that God wants our yielded heart more than outward obedience, and that despite being rejected by mankind, He pursued the cross to make us His own.

Take Care: the danger of indifference (Matthew 22:1-14, Matthew 25:31-40, Matthew 24:32-34): Jamie urged us to honor our Bridegroom, Jesus; to beware of apathy towards those in need, and to trust God because all of nature takes its cue from Him.

When You Can’t Trust Time, Trust God (Matthew 24:36-44, 45-51, Matthew 25:1-13): Lisa called us to trust God because He is always with us and He always shows up on time. She added, “we walk steadier when we keep our eyes on Jesus, not on the clock.”

Recap of the 2019 Lenten Reading Plan, #40DaysWithTheStoryteller

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We hope you will continue to engage in God’s Word and in discussion with us through your comments here and in our community Facebook page through the rest of the year.

 

Whether You Live Or Die {Memorize Philippians 1:21-22}

April 22, 2019 by Lisa Burgess 2 Comments

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When someone we love is sick, we do everything we can to keep them alive. When our efforts fail, we feel pain. Their absence is noticeable. The loss hurts.

But what did the apostle Paul say about living and dying?

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Memorize This Week

21 For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.
22 If I am to live in the flesh, that means fruitful labor for me. Yet which I shall choose I cannot tell.
Philippians 1:21-22

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You Don’t Lose

Even as believers, when death strikes its blow, we cringe in pain.

But . . . we also know that death doesn’t get the final word.

Paul knew that. He was so confident in Jesus that he lost any fear of death. He went so far as to say that “to die is gain” (Philippians 1:21).

As we memorize Philippians 1:21-22 this week, may we also grow in our confidence that whether we live or whether we die, we are victorious because we are in Christ. We can’t lose either way. It’s all a win.

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When You Can’t Trust Time, Trust God

April 18, 2019 by Lisa Burgess 15 Comments

Are you a clock watcher? Do you keep a constant eye on the calendar to know what’s coming next?

What happens when you can’t trust time?

Join us for Days 38-40 of our Lenten readings.

When you can't trust time

We’re in our last three days of Lent readings. As we prepare our hearts for Resurrection Sunday, these stories from Jesus can lead us into a deeper level of trust despite the unknown.

When we can’t trust time—and we can’t control it or change it or predict it—we can place our trust in God’s goodness.

1. When You Don’t Know the Time, Stay Awake

Read Matthew 24:36-44 for Thursday, Day 38

We just don’t know when some things will happen. There were “whens” that God didn’t even tell Jesus when He was living in our time zone.

When Jesus was telling His listeners about His future coming in these scriptures, He said that no one knew the hour—or even the day—that it would be; only God knew.

But Jesus didn’t leave them (or us) without instruction in the waiting. When you don’t know when something is coming, stay awake for it. Be ready.

In big and small ways, the Master comes to us every day. And He often comes when we don’t expect Him. Maybe it’s through a sister’s email or a baby’s babbling or a spring lightning storm. But if we’ll stay vigilant, we’ll be ready to welcome His arrival.

Trust that Jesus always comes, is always here, and we won’t be caught off-guard.

2. When You Can’t See Him Working, Do Your Work Now

Read Matthew 24:45-51 for Friday, Day 39

Who is put in charge? Ideally, it’s the one who will do the work. The one who is dependable. The one who is responsible. With or without the tangible presence of the boss.

In this story we see the workers throwing a party when the boss is out of town. When the boss shows up—unannounced and unexpected—the workers get thrown out.

We typically do not know when the Lord will act. When will He restore what was lost? When will He bring closure to a distressing situation? When will He deliver us from a difficult season of life?

We can’t know His timing. But we can know this: He will show up right on time. And when He does, will He find us faithful? Will we still be trusting, still be loving, still be holding hope?

When we don’t see God working in our Friday, let’s do our work now anyway. Do the good we know to do. We’ll be blessed when Sunday arrives and the Master’s behind-the-scenes work becomes visible.

3. When You’re Out of Time, Know He’s Coming

Read Matthew 25:1-13 for Saturday, Day 40

This final reading is the parable of the Ten Wise and Foolish Virgins. We’re reminded how easy it is to misallocate our resources, including under or overestimating our time. Five of the young virgins used all their oil quickly and their lamps burned out. But the other five brought extra supplies of oil, and even though the bridegroom was delayed, their candles were still lit.

Timing is rarely up to us.

But even though we don’t know when, we can trust who.

If we keep our eyes on the person of Jesus Christ, knowing that He will always come through for us, we can keep our lamps of hope burning. Even when He’s late in our estimation, we won’t run out of reserves to believe in Him.

Watch Jesus, Not the Clock

Our clocks and our calendars can help us manage our time, but they are inadequate to prepare us for life’s uncertainty.

Whether we’re in a day of walking to the tomb with Jesus or walking out of it, we’ll walk steadier when we keep our eyes on Jesus, not on the clock.

When we rely most on who we know, the when matters much less.

Don’t be a clock-watcher. You can’t trust when; trust who. #40DaysWithTheStoryteller

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Do you always know what time and day it is? How do you remain flexible with the Lord’s plans? Please share your thoughts in the comments.

 

Take Care: the danger of indifference

April 16, 2019 by Jaime Hilton Leave a Comment

Lent Parables Days 35 – 37

Two days ago we celebrated Palm Sunday, the day marking Jesus’ triumphal entry into Jerusalem. The people spread branches and cloaks on the ground, cheering for the man who would free them from the tyranny of Rome. Of course Jesus was always clear, he had come to free them from much more. There is an urgency in his parables as he prepares his disciples for the end of his time on earth, reminding them of what is most important.

Day 35: Matthew 22:1-14

You might be thinking this story sounds pretty similar to a parable we’ve already read, and you’re right! (Luke 14:15-24, day 21 of our Lent readings). But in Matthew’s account, Jesus expands the metaphor.

The invited guests snub the invitation (and mistreat his servants like in the parable of the Wicked Tenants) so the King, after avenging the deaths of his servants, opens the invitation to everyone – good or bad. He has made the feast ready and everyone is invited to come and receive.

In verse 11 the King looks around and sees someone who has come to the feast but is not wearing the wedding garment. I appreciated this explanation from Got Questions.org:

This was Jesus’ way of teaching the inadequacy of self-righteousness. From the very beginning, God has provided a “covering” for our sin. To insist on covering ourselves is to be clad in “filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6). Adam and Eve tried to cover their shame, but they found their fig leaves to be woefully scant. God took away their handmade clothes and replaced them with skins of (sacrificed) animals (Genesis 3:7, 21). In the book of Revelation, we see those in heaven wearing “white robes” (Revelation 7:9), and we learn that the whiteness of the robes is due to their being washed in the blood of the Lamb (verse 14). We trust in God’s righteousness, not our own (Philippians 3:9).

Day 36: Matthew 25:31-40

In today’s parable Jesus talks about the judgement of the nations. When he comes in glory he will divide the nations into sheep and goats. The sheep, representing God’s children (see John 10) are distinguished by their love of others. The goats are set apart, not because they are wicked and do evil things, but because they didn’t take the time to care. Like the man who came to the feast and wore his own clothing, the goats were indifferent and unchanged by the grace of the gospel.

“By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:35

Day 37: Matthew 24:32-34

“From the fig tree learn its lesson: as soon as its branch becomes tender and puts out its leaves, you know that summer is near. ” Matthew 24:32

When life gets stressful and hard, I find it helpful to burry my head, not in the sand to ignore the world around me, but in the ordinary things of life so I can remember what is truly important. Reading the Bible, playing with my children, washing the dishes, watering the plants. There is comfort in the natural things God has made for us. The simple routine of sunrise, sunset, and all the little things that make up the time in between. As Jesus tells his disciples what to expect in the coming days and beyond, he shows them the fig tree. An unassuming, beautiful reminder that everything follows a natural order, exactly as God has designed it to do.

As we continue our last few Lenten readings and prepare to celebrate our Savior’s resurrection, let’s remember to put on the wedding garment of Christ, take care of our neighbors, and watch the fig tree.

Psalm 32:1 “Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.”

How He Loves Us: God Pursues the Underserving (Lent Days 32-34)

April 11, 2019 by Ali Shaw 1 Comment

Thank you for joining us for “How He Loves Us: God Pursues the Underserving.” This is post covers the readings for days 32-34 in our Lenten series, 40 Days with The Storyteller.

Luke 19:12-26 The Ten Minas – Make Good Use of What God’s Given

He said therefore, “A nobleman went into a far country to receive for himself a kingdom and then return. 13Calling ten of his servants,a he gave them ten minas,b and said to them, ‘Engage in business until I come.’ 14But his citizens hated him and sent a delegation after him, saying, ‘We do not want this man to reign over us.’ 15When he returned, having received the kingdom, he ordered these servants to whom he had given the money to be called to him, that he might know what they had gained by doing business. 16The first came before him, saying, ‘Lord, your mina has made ten minas more.’ 17And he said to him, ‘Well done, good servant!c Because you have been faithful in a very little, you shall have authority over ten cities.’ 18And the second came, saying, ‘Lord, your mina has made five minas.’ 19And he said to him, ‘And you are to be over five cities.’ 20Then another came, saying, ‘Lord, here is your mina, which I kept laid away in a handkerchief; 21for I was afraid of you, because you are a severe man. You take what you did not deposit, and reap what you did not sow.’ 22He said to him, ‘I will condemn you with your own words, you wicked servant! You knew that I was a severe man, taking what I did not deposit and reaping what I did not sow? 23Why then did you not put my money in the bank, and at my coming I might have collected it with interest?’ 24And he said to those who stood by, ‘Take the mina from him, and give it to the one who has the ten minas.’ 25And they said to him, ‘Lord, he has ten minas!’ 26‘I tell you that to everyone who has, more will be given, but from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away. (Luke 19:12-26)

Have you ever given someone a gift only to have it come back to you a few years later, unused? You know, the dreaded “regift” that returns to you, when the regifter forgot that you were the original giver?

It’s happened to me. It gave me a really good laugh since I am not one to get my feelings hurt easily! But I have to admit that it did puzzle me a bit. Why wasn’t the gift deemed useful in the first place? It put me on a quest to finding a more appropriate gift for that person the next time around. 

The Parable of the Ten Minas teaches us that God gives each of us a gift (usually interpreted as the gift of life). It is our duty to use our lives and not sit idly, wasting His investment.

We shouldn’t be “regifters” who keep what God has given us, do nothing with it, and then return it to Him unused! Rather, we should invest ourselves in order to reap for His kingdom.

In turn, He will bless us for our wisdom in using our lives for His sake.

Focus: My entire life is a gift. I am a steward of what God has given me; I should use my life for His glory.

Question: Are you investing what He has given you to reap more to the glory of God? 

Research:Why were all the servants in this story given the same gift, as opposed to the differing gifts in the Parable of the Talents? (Found in Matthew 25:14-30)

Matthew 21:28-32 The Two Sons – Rebellion and Obedience

28“What do you think? A man had two sons. And he went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work in the vineyard today.’ 29And he answered, ‘I will not,’ but afterward he changed his mind and went. 30And he went to the other son and said the same. And he answered, ‘I go, sir,’ but did not go. 31Which of the two did the will of his father?” They said, “The first.” Jesus said to them, “Truly, I say to you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes go into the kingdom of God before you. 32For John came to you in the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes believed him. And even when you saw it, you did not afterward change your minds and believe him. (Matthew 21:28-32)

When my older two girls were young my husband and I realized this about them: Our oldest daughter, who is serious and responsible, almost always did what was expected even if she grumbled or complained about it. The younger is sweet and fun-loving and had great intentions, but often didn’t do what she was supposed to. (Hello, distraction and shiny objects!)

The parable of the two sons could be told by many parents, right? A father asks his two kids to work. One says no, but changes his mind. The other says yes, but doesn’t go. It doesn’t sound like much out of the ordinary, does it?

But Jesus shows us that what is profound here is God, not mankind. Mankind promises and doesn’t fulfill. We change our minds. We say “no” when we should say “yes.” And we say “yes” when we don’t mean it.

God surprises us by accepting people into His kingdom who don’t look like they measure up. Tax collectors (about on the same level as traitors in the Jewish opinion of the day) and harlots? This is certainly not who the Jews thought would inherit the kingdom. They were inwardly rebellious and looking only at the outward appearance of obedience and not at the heart.

Focus: God is more concerned with the intentions of the heart than on the outward appearances of obedience.

Question: Which of the two sons do you identify with? Why? 

Research: Who did the two sons in this parable represent? What was Jesus saying about them?

Matthew 21:33-46 the Wicked Tenants –  Illustration of Jesus’ Death

33Hear another parable. There was a master of a house who planted a vineyard and put a fence around it and dug a winepress in it and built a tower and leased it to tenants, and went into another country. 34When the season for fruit drew near, he sent his servantsc to the tenants to get his fruit. 35And the tenants took his servants and beat one, killed another, and stoned another. 36Again he sent other servants, more than the first. And they did the same to them. 37Finally he sent his son to them, saying, ‘They will respect my son.’ 38But when the tenants saw the son, they said to themselves, ‘This is the heir. Come, let us kill him and have his inheritance.’ 39And they took him and threw him out of the vineyard and killed him. 40When therefore the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those tenants?” 41They said to him, “He will put those wretches to a miserable death and let out the vineyard to other tenants who will give him the fruits in their seasons.”

42Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures:

“‘The stone that the builders rejected

has become the cornerstone;d

this was the Lord’s doing,

and it is marvelous in our eyes’?

43Therefore I tell you, the kingdom of God will be taken away from you and given to a people producing its fruits.44And the one who falls on this stone will be broken to pieces; and when it falls on anyone, it will crush him.”e

45When the chief priests and the Pharisees heard his parables, they perceived that he was speaking about them. 46And although they were seeking to arrest him, they feared the crowds, because they held him to be a prophet. (Matthew 21:33-46)

I’ll be honest with you. This parable is very hard for me to write about– and it’s not because it’s difficult to interpret. This one isn’t. No, Jesus tells an easy to understand story that the chief priests and Pharisees knew was about them. 

This parable is difficult for me because God in the human form of Jesus is talking to His very own creation, telling them the true story of how they had rejected Him, and how they would throw Him out of His own “vineyard,” and then would kill him.

Thinking on what was done to my precious Lord is hard. 

Knowing it was my sin that He bore on the cross is hard.

I just sit here with tears, worshipping the Savior who so willingly shed His blood for me, someone as undeserving as the tax collectors and harlots from the last parable. 

There is nothing I can do to earn my own righteousness. My faith is built up, resulting in God’s glory, because of Jesus, the rejected stone. It is only by Him that I can bear fruit.

As hard as this parable is, it is also beautiful. God pursues us! He doesn’t want us left to ourselves to bear the punishment of our sin. No, He seeks to make Himself known to us.

Focus: Christ, rejected by His own people, loves mankind so much He pursues us anyway. He died for our sin as a willing sacrifice.

Question: How does this parable affect you? Why? What is your heart’s response to God?

Research: Who are the main characters in this parable and who do they represent? How does this enhance your understanding of the story?


How He Loves Us

He loves us so much that He sent us Jesus, Himself clothed in human flesh, to die for our sin, reconciling us to God.

 “Though being in the form of God did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking on the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name…” (Phil 2:6-8)

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.b The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 18All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; 19that is, in Christ God was reconcilingc the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. 2 (Cor 5:17-19)


What are your thoughts on these parables? Share with us in the comments or in our community group on Facebook. (Just search for the DoNotDepart Community.) We’d love to hear from you!

Blessings, Ali

How He Loves Us: God Pursues the Underserving (Lent Days 32-34) #40DaysWithTheStoryteller

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Our Gracious God Hears – Days 29-31

April 10, 2019 by Patti Brown 1 Comment

Our Gracious God Hears - 40 Days With the Storyteller, Days 29-31

Our Gracious God Hears - 40 Days With the Storyteller, Days 29-31

Laborers in the Vineyard – Limitless Grace

Day 29 – Matt 20:1-16 

“”For the kingdom of heaven is like a master of a house who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard. After agreeing with the laborers for a denarius a day, he sent them into his vineyard. And going out about the third hour he saw others standing idle in the marketplace, and to them he said, ‘You go into the vineyard too, and whatever is right I will give you.’ So they went. Going out again about the sixth hour and the ninth hour, he did the same. And about the eleventh hour he went out and found others standing. And he said to them, ‘Why do you stand here idle all day?’ They said to him, ‘Because no one has hired us.’ He said to them, ‘You go into the vineyard too.’ And when evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his foreman, ‘Call the laborers and pay them their wages, beginning with the last, up to the first.’ And when those hired about the eleventh hour came, each of them received a denarius. Now when those hired first came, they thought they would receive more, but each of them also received a denarius. And on receiving it they grumbled at the master of the house, saying, ‘These last worked only one hour, and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the day and the scorching heat.’ But he replied to one of them, ‘Friend, I am doing you no wrong. Did you not agree with me for a denarius? Take what belongs to you and go. I choose to give to this last worker as I give to you. Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or do you begrudge my generosity?’ So the last will be first, and the first last.”” – Matthew 20:1-16 ESV

It is human nature to want to be treated fairly, and a first reading of the parable of the laborers of the vineyard seems to tell the story of a great unfairness. Why should those who work one hour be paid as much as those who work twelve? Yet our spiritual reality is that if God treated us fairly NONE of us would go to heaven! I am so thankful He does not operate by human standards of “fair!”

“There is great proneness in us to think that we have too little, and others too much of the tokens of God’s favour; and that we do too much, and others too little in the work of God. But if God gives grace to others, it is kindness to them, and no injustice to us… God punishes none more than they deserve, and recompenses every service done for him; he therefore does no wrong to any, by showing extraordinary grace to some… Let us never envy or grudge, but rejoice and praise God for his mercy to others as well as to ourselves.” – Matthew Henry

FOCUS: God’s grace looks different for each person.

QUESTION: How has God treated you “unfairly” and given what you do not deserve? Think in very detailed terms about your daily life and journal about the grace God has given you.


The Persistent Widow – Perseverant Faith

Day 30 – Luke 18:1-8 

“And he told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart. He said, “In a certain city there was a judge who neither feared God nor respected man. And there was a widow in that city who kept coming to him and saying, ‘Give me justice against my adversary.’ For a while he refused, but afterward he said to himself, ‘Though I neither fear God nor respect man, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will give her justice, so that she will not beat me down by her continual coming.'” And the Lord said, “Hear what the unrighteous judge says. And will not God give justice to his elect, who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long over them? I tell you, he will give justice to them speedily. Nevertheless, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?”” Luke 18:1-8 ESV

Despite living thousand of miles from each other, my friend Sandy and I have been praying together weekly for almost a decade. I have filled journals with our prayer requests. I can look back and read requests that were repeated week after week, that have now been answered. I believe that some day the unanswered requests I wrote down this week will also be answered, I just don’t know when!

Because we are stuck in time here on earth, we see things in a linear fashion, and when answers seem slow by our timetable, we can fall into thinking that God is ignoring us. We have no way of seeing the big picture. But the parable of the persistent widow reminds us that God does see us, and He never stops listening. 

It can be hard to persist in prayer though, can’t it? I find it so comforting that Jesus understands our weakness, and he knows that we have a tendency to lose heart. This is why he starts out this passage with an encouragement!

Perseverance in prayer demonstrates our faith in our Heavenly Father, and trust in His goodness and sovereignty.

FOCUS: We can persist in prayer because God is trustworthy

QUESTION: What are you persisting in prayer for right now? Is there something you stopped praying for because you “lost heart”? Pick that prayer request up again this week and offer it to the Lord.


The Pharisee and The Tax Collector – Pride/Humility

Day 31 – Luke 18:9-14 

“He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”” – Luke 18:9-14 ESV

The ways of the world tell us that those in power, and those most noticed, are clearly the most important. But God’s Kingdom operates with a reverse structure – the weakest and most humble are exalted!

Proverbs 11:2 says “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” It is wise to humble yourself before God, because His might is greater than all the accolades and power of this world.

And this mighty God cares about your humble prayer. He hears every word, and cares about your every need

“With this example of prayer favourably heard, there is surely no sin-burthened soul on earth who may not take courage in seeking God’s face. One great object of this parable, we may believe, was to suggest some such thoughts, to embolden sorrowful, heart-broken sinners simply to go to God, trusting in his great pitying love.” – The Pulpit Commentary

FOCUS:  God hears His children’s humble petitions.

QUESTION: Do you struggle with pride? Ask God to show you an area of pride in your life and invite Him to do a humbling work in you. 

A Goal Bigger Than Life {Memorize Philippians 1:20}

April 8, 2019 by Lisa Burgess Leave a Comment

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Don’t Look at It

Unless we’re in deep pain, we typically don’t want to die.

We fight death. Avoid it. Don’t want to look it in the eye.

But the apostle Paul took a different approach. Can we?

Bigger than life

Memorize This Week

20 as it is my eager expectation and hope that I will not be at all ashamed, but that with full courage now as always Christ will be honored in my body, whether by life or by death.
Philippians 1:20

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Bigger Than Life

Paul’s goal wasn’t to merely stay alive. His goal was to honor Christ. If that meant dying, so be it. If that meant living longer, bring it on.

We need stronger goals, too. Just aiming to keep our lungs breathing and our hearts pumping doesn’t lead to a meaningful life. We need purpose. Purpose to live. Purpose to die.

Could that purpose be one and the same?

If honoring Christ was a goal bigger than life or death for Paul, is it big enough for us, too?

[Scheduling note: Next week is our planned one-week break from memorizing anything new, as we prepare our hearts for Easter. We’ll return with our Philippians memory verses on April 15.]

We need a bigger purpose than merely staying alive. What’s yours? #Philippians1 #HideHisWord

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